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Looking after your assets: everything you need to know about maintaining a happy, healthy ass

By Emen8, updated 11 months ago in Sex and dating / Sex

Anal sex. It’s probably not a deeply explored topic in the standard birds-and-bees chat.

But just like the rest of your sexy bits, your anus offers a whole wonderful world to investigate, and the mechanics are just the beginning. Bottoming can be one of the most intense, intimate, vulnerable and mind-blowing things you can do with another guy. Or it can be average, uncomfortable, embarrassing and very unsatisfying.

The difference can be as simple as arming yourself with the right information — and, as always, we’ve got your back(side). Read on for the hot take on maintaining a happy, healthy ass, and how to operate it for the foremost sex of your life.

1. Get to know the basic anatomy

As you can see from the handy diagram, this area involves several special muscles and sphincters. It sits right behind your prostate and the rest of your sex anatomy, which is why it feels so good when your buddy is inside you. It’

Life on the Bottom

I enjoyed a short-lived career on the bottom. My college boyfriend’s family lived in a duplex on Park Avenue, where we’d often slip away on weekends. Meals were rich and plentiful — foie gras, profiteroles, double magnums of Riesling, etc. — all of which I eagerly imbibed. Following one such decadent feast my freshman year, when we were still very much in the honeymoon phase of our first gay relationship, Dan and I retired to his bedroom and got to work. For weeks we’d been easing into penetration with me on the bottom, but the pain had proven prohibitive. Also at act was acute paranoia of involuntary defecation, something I’d been assured was a common, yet unwarranted, concern of bottoms.

Presumably though, most surveyed hadn’t recently gorged on three helpings of fattened goose liver. It’s adj to look someone in the eye after shitting their childhood bed — let alone date them for seven more years afterward — but that’s exactly what happened. What didn’t happen — and hasn’t since, really — was me back on the bottom.

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DEAR READERS: I’m off this week. To tide all of your sizzling and/or kinky and/or sore asses over, here’s a column I wrote 15 years ago. Some newer readers might’ve missed this column when it originally appeared—some of you who were still in grade school, diapers, or amniotic sacs back in 1998—so I’m rerunning it now because I still earn questions about “gerbiling” on a daily basis.


QWe were having a little office debate about “gerbiling.” How does it work? Do all gay men do this? Does Richard Gere? Does the animal get shoved up the anus with a toilet paper roll only to suffocate seconds later? Is it the scratching or the act of killing an animal that gets people off? Why? Can’t this cause solemn damage? What gives? —Curious Coworkers

AEvery day, my mail contains at least three questions about “gerbiling.” In the eight years I’ve been writing this column, I have never addressed the gerbil issue, but now, this week and this week only, I am breaking my silence. Clip and retain this column, for I will neve

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